Yes, she was born male but I recommend you watch the "Are traps gay" video because she directly addresses a few of the points you bring up. In short, she says it only matters what you are attracted to, and if that happens to be a man who looks like a woman, you do you. If you are not attracted to a man who identifies as a woman, but still looks masculine, that does not give you the right to not call them by the gender they identify as, just because they are not feminine enough for you. She admits that you do have to put in a lot of work to look the way she does, including taking hormone pills.
Yeah, I get that, and I have no issue addressing a person as they ask....after they ask, and within reason. Right off the bat, however, if I need to address a strange...thee's the whole low hanging fruit thing. Miss, Sir, maam, you get the point...
The issue, as always, isn't the people that will work within the confines of society, it's the outer fringe that won't. The person who works at looking and acting a sex isn't the issue. I really believe this represents a mass majority of the overall mass minority trans community. They just want to be whatever sex they feel and most of them will work towards that, they don't have a be a beautiful specimen to count...hell, I"m not a beautiful example of the male form.
The issue is the wacko's that are making things difficult for everyone...like this shit here:
https://genderneutralpronoun.wordpress.com/tag/xe/
People with this Ne, Ve, Ze, Xe horse shit.
*EDIT*
I watched some of the first video.
It's a valid topic, for sure. Honestly, I feel the violence towards trans people from men has a ton to do with toxic masculinity.
"Wait...did Smokehouse just say toxic masculinity, I didn't think that he believes in "liberal shit" like that?"
Yes...I did and yes, I do fully believe in it.
Not only is toxic masculinity a massive issue with American males, I believe that it is even a larger issue in the minority communities. As she said int he video, many of the males that kill discovered trans individuals are minorities.
The second part...about trans people being gay...again, the entire concept, just like sex segregated bathrooms, is our fault, with "our" meaning society, religion, training, etc.
In an ideal world, there should be no "gay", or "straight"...just two humans that find each other sexually attractive. Wanna make a baby, sorry chap, that does require a female element and a male one...but everything else? Fair game. This is how we've raised our daughter, be with whomever you like, race, sex, doesn't matter. I could not care less who she will one day bring home with her, just as long as she is happy and in a healthy relationship with them.