Memorial, thanks

[max 330 megafartz]

Thank you all for your stories and support. I really appreciate every comment. Some day once Katie is doing better with our loss i will show her this thread so she can see all the nice things people said.

Im still real fucked up, and i gotta work all 3 of the next nights, but when i am feeling a little better i will try to stop back by and talk nerd shit and sega gaymz with you all soon. <3

 

[OldSchoolNeo]

Sorry to hear of your loss; pets are definitely family and their love is unconditional.

 

[ballzdeepx]

Sorry for your loss man, it’s never easy and hurts like hell. You guys did everything possible to give him the best life, he appreciated it no doubt.

 

[Arcademan]

Our family had always had dogs as pets growing up, some of them living the entire time growing up. Once everyone had moved on, my mom and dad kept at least two dogs around (both small) but after I moved back in to live with them, both dogs eventually grew old and died, one passed away in my lap when it fell asleep while on the computer. After that, that was the last time we would have a pet around. The grief of their passings wore my mom especially down to the point she never wanted to go through that again. My condolences on the loss of not just a pet but a member of your family.

 

[HornheaDD]

When Neo was alive, we had two other cats. His older sister Nala who we had to put to sleep in 2017 due to her quite literally falling apart. She was 17 too. The other cat we had was a remnant of what we called Kittenpocalypse in 2014. We had been feeding a stray momma for a couple years and then the perfect storm hit. 4 pregnant mommas that all popped within a week of each other. We had 15 newborn - feral - kittens in the span of a week. We lost one because his mom (only child) abandoned him and he died before we got to him. But we rehomed all of the others except for one - Randy Butternubs.

So it was just Neo and Randy back in 2020. Randy WORSHIPPED Neo. Absolutely loved him. Neo... tolerated Randy. When we lost Neo we decided not to get another cat. We could tell Randy missed the company and got REAL snuggly afterward. Hes always been sweet, but not a snuggler until we lost Neo.

So, we decided to get another kitten, and ended up finding a bonded pair, a gray tabby and an orange psychotic kitten. The tabby (Ahsoka) LIED to us. She ended up growing orange fur and became a Torbie. Worst cat we've ever had, and I absolutely love her, shes great. Such a troublemaker and I wouldnt change a thing. Shes perfect. The orange boy (Dewford) is.. simply put, my new Neo. He didnt replace Neo, no one could. But this little guy (they are both gonna be 4 this december) has wormed his way into the same ventricle as Neo.

And Dewford WORSHIPS Randy even more than Randy did Neo lol.

Randy... tolerates him.

Apologies - The point of this tl;dr is - Don't beat yourselves up if you miss having a furbuddy around, and want to get another cat/kitten. You can't replace Garth and you wouldn't be. You wouldn't tarnish the memories and love you have with/from him. But the other kitten(s) will help you heal. I do wish I still had my Neo, (wasnt named after the console, he was named after the matrix character - his neural kinetics were WAY above normal). But Ahsoka and Dewey have definitely helped alleviate that pain.

 

[wyo]

Sorry to hear bro, I feel your pain. it was rough losing my dog last year after almost 15 years of loyal companionship. I don't think it's healthy to compare the loss of pets to people dying but that's how I felt at the time as well.

As others have said, it does get easier after the initial grieving process. My wife wants another dog but I do not. For the time being, we hang out with my kid's dog every week or so.

 

[Lastblade]

Sorry for your loss. It is tough losing a pet, and in some ways, they are closer than most family members since they spend day and night with us. I lost my dog over 10 years ago (and my other dog a year or so later). I don't know if I ever recovered, to this day I still mourn and miss them. I also never could get another dog.

 

[GutsDozer]

They really are family. I'm very sorry for your loss.

 

[Bennett]

**(Posting this on behalf of Max)**

What would have been Garth’s fifth gotcha day just past on Friday, November 8th.

To mark the day when I met the greatest joy that ever came into my life, we planted a japanese fireglow maple atop his burial plot.

We thought a long time and planned for this. What we did not anticipate was that the week with the perfect temperatures and front looking forecast would fall on the week we met him so rambunctiously ready for the world in an alley three blocks from us. Then it literally ended up that the first chance we had to plant the tree was the day we first put him in a backpack and took him to the vet so he could come home.

I hope some day this tree long outlives Garth and we can decorate him every Halloween as it is basically when we first saw him flitting about an alleyway.

I cant say things have gotten easier, and I was warned by the very few people who saw what we had on our hands with this little guy that this would never be an easy letting go of.


Not a day goes by.

 

[Teddy KGB]

Keep your head up @max 330 megafartz ... Sometime this shit takes a long time to get over. And in the end, who says you have to truly get over it right now? It's human and a healthy part of the grieving process can include lingering sorrow. The tree planting to remember Garth is a nice touch.

We were in a similar situation with a magnificent tuxedo cat we adopted years ago that had a supposed documented clean bill of health from the adoption rescue. Well, she had congestive heart disease but by the time we found out a couple weeks after the adoption, we were already attached. Medical bills up the yin yang, regular draining of the fluid around her heart every month or two, it didn't matter. We tried our damndest to give her the best life possible which we did for the couple years we had her till she passed about 9 yrs ago. I don't think I'm fully "over it" yet either, and that's OK.

On a side note, we were made whole (for the most part) by the adoption agency from a $$ perspective due to their inaccurate bill of health, but in the aftermath of everything, it wasn't about the money.

Anyways, this isn't about my story but more about you giving yourself the proper runway to do your thing emotionally. All the best to you and Katie my brother.

 

[max 330 megafartz]

**(Posting this on behalf of Max)**

What would have been Garth’s fifth gotcha day just past on Friday, November 8th.

To mark the day when I met the greatest joy that ever came into my life, we planted a japanese fireglow maple atop his burial plot.

We thought a long time and planned for this. What we did not anticipate was that the week with the perfect temperatures and front looking forecast would fall on the week we met him so rambunctiously up that the first chance we had to plant the tree was the day we first put him in a backpack and took him to the vet so he could come home.

I hope some day this tree long outlives Garth and we can decorate him every Halloween as it is basically when we first saw him flitting about an alleyway.

I cant say things have gotten easier, and I was warned by the very few people who saw what we had on our hands with this little guy that this would never be an easy letting go of.


Not a day goes by.

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Keep your head up @max 330 megafartz ... Sometime this shit takes a long time to get over. And in the end, who says you have to truly get over it right now? It's human and a healthy part of the grieving process can include lingering sorrow. The tree planting to remember Garth is a nice touch.

We were in a similar situation with a magnificent tuxedo cat we adopted years ago that had a supposed documented clean bill of health from the adoption rescue. Well, she had congestive heart disease but by the time we found out a couple weeks after the adoption, we were already attached. Medical bills up the yin yang, regular draining of the fluid around her heart every month or two, it didn't matter. We tried our damndest to give her the best life possible which we did for the couple years we had her till she passed about 9 yrs ago. I don't think I'm fully "over it" yet either, and that's OK.

On a side note, we were made whole (for the most part) by the adoption agency from a $$ perspective due to their inaccurate bill of health, but in the aftermath of everything, it wasn't about the money.

Anyways, this isn't about my story but more about you giving yourself the proper runway to do your thing emotionally. All the best to you and Katie my brother.

thank you. Sometimes no matter the depth, you just want to fill the hole in hopes of correcting the problem. I sympathize with your story so very much.

 

[Taiso]

You will never stop grieving. And you're not supposed to.

But you will learn to live with it, my friend. You will learn to swim in that ocean of grief. And you will draw strength from it, in time. It will remind you that you loved something or someone in a meaningful way.

Trust me.

 

[max 330 megafartz]

You will never stop grieving. And you're not supposed to.

But you will learn to live with it, my friend. You will learn to swim in that ocean of grief. And you will draw strength from it, in time. It will remind you that you loved something or someone in a meaningful way.

Trust me.

Taiso, i will say this publicly with tears in my eyes.
Ive come to find that my greatest achievement in life has been knowing, loving, and missing him.
I hope i am not being an irrational asshole right now. What i mean is i have thought about your past few years and i know that what has devastated me has been no more than a quarter of what you have experienced. We have never actually spoken in depth directly to form a true bond but i want you to know i feel kinship to you since you came back and i saw your posts about the situation.
Not gonna proof this, stream of consciousness. Thanks

 

[Taiso]

Thank you, my brother.

One of the few good things to come out of losing my wife, if anything good can come of it at all, is sharing with others how her passing has changed me and affected me. And how I've managed to survive it and Struggle (yes, a Berserk reference).

I feel like I have to share this story with others to show them that we can live after loss and have meaningful experiences.

But we all grieve in different ways. Some will want to share with others. Some will want to keep it private. There is no 'right' or 'wrong' way. I just hope that you are okay. We are all here for you.

 

[max 330 megafartz]

Thank you, my brother.

One of the few good things to come out of losing my wife, if anything good can come of it at all, is sharing with others how her passing has changed me and affected me. And how I've managed to survive it and Struggle (yes, a Berserk reference).

I feel like I have to share this story with others to show them that we can live after loss and have meaningful experiences.

But we all grieve in different ways. Some will want to share with others. Some will want to keep it private. There is no 'right' or 'wrong' way. I just hope that you are okay. We are all here for you.

Im ok. I think. Only Katie has that answer, she can see me from the outside. Her answer on that waivers sometimes but currently she is less than optimally tolerating me. Thank you.

 

[Taiso]

Best of luck. And be patient with her, if you can. Watching someone you love go through something that you can't fix can be trying. I'm sure your loss isn't easy on anyone in your circle right now.