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So I rarely post serious questions (mostly just me complaining about eBay and Paypal). However I'm not quite sure what to do about this. A few months ago I found my dad in the chair downstairs having a heart attack (at around 2-3am...I'm a night owl so that was lucky). Anyway, he was taken to the hospital where he was in an induced coma for a couple of weeks. We were told it was because one of the arteries was completely blocked (not a major one, but not a minor one either). He was let go a few weeks later and has since completed his rehabilitation. I'd say he is back to somewhere close to 95-100%. Now comes the problem. One of the causes of this is because my dad comes from a Ukrainian heritage, meaning lots of butter/fat/etc types of food. He grew up like this and continued it throughout his adulthood. My mom cooked for him throughout his rehabilitation (lots of veggies etc)..and he lost a lot of weight. (50 lbs, to around 216 lbs). However now that he is off rehabilitation , he is sneaking food like fast food, sardines in heavy salt, chocolate, putting butter in everything again and who knows what other things I'm not aware of. If I tell my sisters/mom about it, he calls me a "tattle tale", gets pissed off and says I get some sort of sick pleasure out of telling on him.
My grandfather had the same problem, he was very stubborn. One time I found him bleeding in his bed when I was visiting him. He said he fell and I insisted that we go to the hospital...he declined and said he was fine. I told him I would call the ambulance if he didn't and he told me in an angry tone not to do this. In the end I had to call my sister and have her guilt trip him into letting me take him (my sister and my grandfather were very close). It's basically the same thing here, I call my sister and guilt trip him since I can do jack shit. This is one of the reasons I want to move to Japan permanently (against my mom's wishes), so I don't have to see stuff like this again.
I know people will say "It's his life, let him do what he wants." Yeah, well the problem with that is the entire family doesn't want to see him in a coma again and I don't want to hear my mom cry like that again. I know this is not the easiest thing to answer, but does anyone have any ideas?
My grandfather had the same problem, he was very stubborn. One time I found him bleeding in his bed when I was visiting him. He said he fell and I insisted that we go to the hospital...he declined and said he was fine. I told him I would call the ambulance if he didn't and he told me in an angry tone not to do this. In the end I had to call my sister and have her guilt trip him into letting me take him (my sister and my grandfather were very close). It's basically the same thing here, I call my sister and guilt trip him since I can do jack shit. This is one of the reasons I want to move to Japan permanently (against my mom's wishes), so I don't have to see stuff like this again.
I know people will say "It's his life, let him do what he wants." Yeah, well the problem with that is the entire family doesn't want to see him in a coma again and I don't want to hear my mom cry like that again. I know this is not the easiest thing to answer, but does anyone have any ideas?