Anyone got married and than instantly regretted it

rugal2000

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Have you or anyone you know got married and than regretted it immediatly and its too late.
eg a) In the last days leading up to it you realise her family are scumbags and want out.
b) You feel suffocated and realise U will lose your independance
c) You just want the girl without the paper commitment
d) you still want to fuck around.

So if this has happened to you , what did you do.
Did you tell the girl straight away.
Did you just walk.
Did you play along for months or even years.

What do you think is the best way to deal with it.

My best friend is going through this and Ive advised him to walk now before its too late. Is that good advice? What would U do?
A disclaimer is that in this situation, the girl will definetly not be like Brittney Spears and just accept it as a joke. A lot of money was spent on the wedding and the families are bound to be pissed.
 
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Well it seems pretty clear that if there's a problem ;that is not a good platform to start on and should definately not get married.
 
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But the problem is, he was too chicken shit to say no, and married her already!
 
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I'd have to agree with rugel.
But it is now a hard situation, he can either learn to live that way or...
as much as I am against devorce I think it would be the best situation. Since they don't have any kids, its better to get it taken care of before that problem even arises.
How does she feel, you never know she may be thinking the same thing and having it posted on a web forum somewhere else.
 
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Only get married if you're really really in love and you know you can spend the rest of your life with your spouse-to-be.

Otherwise you're just going to end up making a bad situation.
 
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JHendrix said:
Only get married if you're really really in love and you know you can spend the rest of your life with your spouse-to-be.

Otherwise you're just going to end up making a bad situation.
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Congratulations, you have just won the "Really? I didn't know that" post award of the day.
 
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Wasim most people have a little regret from time to time

feck when i was at the alter i got a major sweat on and i mean major kinda worried about all the stuff i would be giving up (casual sex etc etc)

but 7 years later my life hasnt been rosier and its always been great

sorry to hear about your mate with these major worries and like most things everytime he looks at his wife now he will feel and get worse so he has to sort it quickly for his sake and for his wife
 
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Robert said:
Congratulations, you have just won the "Really? I didn't know that" post award of the day.
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I understand it's rather common knowledge, but seeing threads like this makes it apparant that even the most basic facts need repeating for some people to understand.
 
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Robert said:
Congratulations, you have just won the "Really? I didn't know that" post award of the day.
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Alors comment tu expliques tout les divorces qui arrivent de nos jours? Ca n'as pas l'air que tout le monde le sait...
 
rugal2000

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Thats a really deep insight Jason. I didnt really think to tell him that love is something that grows and not neccesarily some instant feeling.

The fact is the guy is my cousin and he rushed into marriage for the reason he would be getting all the casual sex he wants with this girl by marrying her.
I am thousands of miles away, and if I had been in england i could have advised the stupid bastard he might feel this way and it would be too late .
But it is too late now and somebodys gonna be hurting.
 
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rugal2000 said:
he rushed into marriage for the reason he would be getting all the casual sex he wants with this girl by marrying her.
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LOL

I am not married, but it is my understanding thats NOT how it works. Actually, quite the opposite.

If you want casual sex, stay single. Works for me.
 
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rugal2000 said:
he rushed into marriage for the reason he would be getting all the casual sex he wants with this girl by marrying her.
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erm - joking aside

when you get married teh sex still happens but its more for an occasion :eek_2:

to be honest what i meant by casual sex was going out and pulling different women every night
 
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yeah i agree with you guys. But since the guy aint going to be reading this board. He's only 19 and this bitch is even given my experience pretty hot and being the impulsive bastard he is , he thought it was a good idea at the time
 
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annulment.

if he says he found out she's barren, they should give him an instant divorce.
 
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It's impossible to give a good answer without knowing what the wife feels about it. Rugal, any idea about that?
 
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How does the wife feel? I know that after I got married I was scared, and really hated it (REALLY HATED IT ) for the first few months.,. it was awful. But my husband and I worked it out, we just really had to get used to being married.. and not just living together as fiances..
I agree that if he is not happy and does not see it working out, then he can quickly get it over with (you have a year to anule the marriage don't you?.. I know you do here..)
I think the husband and wife need to talk about this, maybe they can come to some sort of agreement.. maybe they can have one of those.. Polygomous marriages some people do?
I am not sure.. but I wish whoever that is the best of luck of getting their heart and head figured out..
 
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"Your friend is a moron!"

hows that for the "Really? I didn't know that" post award of the day, lol!!
 
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