She said yes!

**Electroman** · 02-11-2004, 08:38 PM

Half hour ago... and her reaction was priceless... hands over her face, tears, the "Of course I will marry you!"... it was priceless.

Ahh and she wasn't expecting anything either...

**Frame Gride 2** · 02-11-2004, 08:39 PM

diamond boobies?

**xRealNinjuzx** · 02-11-2004, 08:49 PM

I spent about a grand on an engagement ring for my girl. Don't spend any more than you can spare. You shouldn't put yourself in financial distress for a ring. If she is really the one for you, she will appreciate anything you give her. If not, ditch her :P

Also, dont propose on valentines day -_- thats so cliche.

Either way, good luck.

-Kris

**Hecker** · 02-11-2004, 08:51 PM

Kepp the money and take her on a trip.

**Electroman** · 02-11-2004, 08:59 PM

Originally posted by xRealNinjuzx
I spent about a grand on an engagement ring for my girl. Don't spend any more than you can spare. You shouldn't put yourself in financial distress for a ring. If she is really the one for you, she will appreciate anything you give her. If not, ditch her :P

Also, dont propose on valentines day -_- thats so cliche.

Either way, good luck.

-Kris

Good words... And about the cliche' thing... if you knew me in person, I am so un-cliche' and un-mainstream it is sickening. But for her... she is cliche and mainstream. She's just a normal girl who loves The Sims, American Idol, her Corolla, and her dog. You can't tell me she's not mainstream

She'll like this.

**Mike Shagohod** · 02-11-2004, 09:09 PM

My wife was pissed off when she found out that with the Engagement ring and wedding ban combined I spent about $1,300 bucks. I personally wanted to get her even bigger diamonds but she's the type AS WELL that doesn't think massive amounts of money should be spent on anything, much less her. I don't know about no 2 Months Salary deal, I went with the 12 month plan and paid it off in seven. If you know she's the one, then just do what comes naturally man, if she totally freaks then I'd start to wonder either what's up with that... or whether or not she's got personal insecurities she shouldn't have with you as her main weiner man, and know you're the only one for her.

MERCENARY X99

**splits** · 02-11-2004, 09:58 PM

I spent $8,900 on a ring. My fiance works in a jewelry store and was able to get a discount off of a $13,500 ring. IMHO go with 1.5 months pay.

I am now in debt up to my eye balls.

If she attaches how much you spend on the ring to how much you love her - drop her like a bad habit.

**aria** · 02-11-2004, 10:12 PM

Considering my engagement may be in the next few years, and I won't be employed until the latter end of that... the salary scale doesn't work.

I say:

Basically

Go classic, go nice, but don't go extravagent in price:

Logic

(1) If she loves you (and she damn well better if you're gonna marry her), she won't care that it didn't cost a mint. Of course, she'll appreciate if it looks what it "should" look like (what "should" means depends on the girl... again, you should already assumably know her well enough, right

).

(2) If the marriage works swimmingly, you'll likely have the money later on to give her the really nice jewelry. These things are rarely bought early.

(3) Conversely, if the whole thing goes sour (either before or after actually get hitched), returning the ring will be a mess. Not to be negative, but its the same reason you MUST (and I repeat, MUST) get a prenuptual agreement: You never know.

Good luck!

**Electroman** · 02-11-2004, 10:30 PM

A prenup? Her and I talked about that years ago, and she's dead against prenups. Easy for her to say, its us guys that make the money usually. She feels (and she's Christian BTW), that marriage should be just totally naked of all binds and such. She was hurt that I wanted a Prenup and totally refused that.

Prenups are logical... marriage is not. Go figure.

Its funny, people who told me that I should get a Prenup (or not get married at all, ever) have all been divorced.

Conversely, people who are happily married say don't bother with prenup at all, just let the love and trust lead the way, and by all means marry. My last boss's famous quote to this effect was, "A happy engineer is a married engineer".

???

???

The keen part.... she actually feels ok with me doing a 'nasty' bachelor party. I told her by all means she should do the same.

**Logicdustbin** · 02-11-2004, 10:30 PM

I went the 'smart' route, I let her pick out the ring.

We have a diamond store near by that lets you 'pick and grab' what ever catches your eye (these rings are fake), then you bring them to the associate selling the rings.

She pick out one that she loved, then we went in to an office where they explained everything you wanted to know about diamonds, we picked out a diamond, then they told us the price. This just happened to be what I had (about $3000CDN).

so,

she got a ring that she can't complain about, and I'm not in debt (for the ring anyhow).

**Electroman** · 02-11-2004, 10:56 PM

Have you guys ever did the "no interest for 1 year" deal that all the jewelers are doing?

I'd rather make payments on the ring for a year, and make interest on my own money than the other way around.

**aria** · 02-12-2004, 12:28 AM

Originally posted by Electroman
A prenup? Her and I talked about that years ago, and she's dead against prenups. Easy for her to say, its us guys that make the money usually. She feels (and she's Christian BTW), that marriage should be just totally naked of all binds and such. She was hurt that I wanted a Prenup and totally refused that.

Although this will be a little harsh, if you want to make a point, ask her what her Christian beliefs say about premarital sex. A great segway for other supposed "violations". I'm fairly sure prenups don't violate any religious doctrine -it's more like a literal insurance of your wedding vows.

Originally posted by Electroman
Prenups are logical... marriage is not. Go figure.

Its funny, people who told me that I should get a Prenup (or not get married at all, ever) have all been divorced.

Conversely, people who are happily married say don't bother with prenup at all, just let the love and trust lead the way, and by all means marry. My last boss's famous quote to this effect was, "A happy engineer is a married engineer".

Well, I'm not married and never have been -but I plan to be and I plan to have a nice "marriage contract". A lot of religions give you certificates for being Baptized, Confirmed, or what-have-you. When you get your official state marriage from the Court, you get amounts to a legal contract -the question is: do you want the basic terms, or do you want to get married on your own?

The logic of the your non-divorced friends is absurd because at any given time, any couple in that group could break apart... then guess which camp they're going to be siding with?

I know people who haven't been divorced who have a prenup. Trust me: if you get married with a prenup, it won't (and shouldn't) be in the back of your mind. If your g/f is so hot on the whole "love and trust lead the way" stuff, there's no reason to be against it -it would be superfluous, but harmless.

Of course, I'm a law student now, so everyone I go to class with is (a) going to have a prenup [although, in all honesty, very few are 100% infaliable -suprisingly, most couples write them themselves, only to have them figuratively shredded under the gaze of an opposing attorney] and (b) have a living will [i.e.: what do you want your family to do if you become a vegitable].

You absolutely never can be sure these days. Then again, if the idea of having to hawk your Neo collection in order to pay alimony sounds cool -by all means take that step!

Maybe you could talk her into talking to her spiritual advisor on the subject, I doubt there are a lot of religious figures trying to talk people out of them given the mammoth divorce rate.

The girl I'm with right now is in my law school class and dead set on working for big bucks -so I'm honestly not worried about fleeced. I don't know what your future monetary situation is... but keep that in mind, again -you never know what happens between two people over a period of 5, 10, 20 or more years.

**Big Shady** · 02-12-2004, 12:35 AM

The Diamond Exchange my friend, the Diamond Exchange. Diamonds at whole sale prices. Thats what my two friends did that are engaged, and the rings looked great and were a fraction of the cost at a regular jeweler.

**Lovecraft0110** · 02-13-2004, 06:13 AM

First of all, CONGRATS, man!

Regarding the ring: like Bobak! said, I think you should go for something you consider nice, but not too expensive. It's the one you'll give her in your wedding that matters. Personally I think it's crazy to even consider a sum of money like 5000$. Disclaimer: that may also be because I have never bought any jewellry in my hole life!

Regarding the "prenup" thing: here in Spain prenups are pretty much unheard of, and I find them rather weird myself. On the other hand, the divorce rate in this country is significantly lower (although it's been steadily rising) than in other parts of Europe, or the US, and I can understand some of the *logic* behind prenups. But, to be honest, I think that such a thing can really kill a relationship. If you enter marriage with the preconceived idea that it might blow up in the future, and your partner might end up trying to "steal" from you, well...then you should steer away from marriage altogether, period.

**BlackSpy** · 02-13-2004, 06:22 AM

I hope she says yes.

The salary multiplier thing is nonsense. It's about buying a ring she likes and you like.

Also, challenge the price, I went and chose a ring with my girlfriend earlier this year when we got engaged. I went back to buy it without her and got them to knock several hundred off the price.

The romantic part is you asking and spending the rest of your lives together, not being dragged over the coals by a jeweller just because you fell in love.

**Neo Mike** · 02-13-2004, 03:16 PM

Shop around. That would be my recommendation. We went all over -- prolly 5-6 stores before we found one that we both fell in love with.

I agree, the salary multiplier thing is nonsense. It's about buying a ring she likes and you like. That in mind, I bought my fiancee a ring that is worth close to 12K, but the way I see it, is that this is something she will wear for the rest of her life, everyday! and i wanted to give her something to be proud of.

I ended up getting her a 1.35 karat Solataire Zales Diamond from Zales.

Looks really nice... a bit bling, classy, and simple, all in one. Perfect.

You will know when you start looking what ring you should get. At least that's how it was for us. These types of things usually just fall into place it seems.

IMO- Find a nice solid ring that has all 4's c's where YOU can afford. They ARE the most important. And obviously make sure the ring you buy is IGI or AGI certified. Don't buy anything that isn't.

Good Luck! And congrats on your engagement!

**xRealNinjuzx** · 02-13-2004, 04:04 PM

Its funny, people who told me that I should get a Prenup (or not get married at all, ever) have all been divorced. Conversely, people who are happily married say don't bother with prenup at all, just let the love and trust lead the way, and by all means marry. My last boss's famous quote to this effect was, "A happy engineer is a married engineer".

Let me just say that all of the married people will say that UNTIL they get divorced. Im willing to bet all of the divorced people that told you to get one where dead against it when they were married. Dont take the risk man.

-Kris

**Lastblade** · 02-13-2004, 06:16 PM

I wish you can buy a house (downpayment wise) with 2 months worth of salary.

Maybe 2 years, if you save every penny and live like a beggar.

At least not in any metropolitan area in USA.

Anyway, I think under 5k is not bad (1 carat F color or below with flawless quality). A friend of mine spent 7k for 1 carat D color (best, whitest stone) vvs, that's not bad.

**Electroman** · 02-14-2004, 11:36 PM

Half hour ago... and her reaction was priceless... hands over her face, tears, the "Of course I will marry you!"... it was priceless.

Ahh and she wasn't expecting anything either...

We had just gotten out of eating at a nice restaurant, and I walked out onto the lawn. It was a real pretty night out, and she asked "What are you doing?"

I got down on one knee and it was all over...

**Lets Gekiga In** · 02-14-2004, 11:38 PM

Originally posted by Electroman
Half hour ago... and her reaction was priceless... hands over her face, tears, the "Of course I will marry you!"... it was priceless.

Ahh and she wasn't expecting anything either...

We had just gotten out of eating at a nice restaurant, and I walked out onto the lawn. It was a real pretty night out, and she asked "What are you doing?"

I got down on one knee and it was all over...

Congratulations d00d!

**Mike Shagohod** · 02-14-2004, 11:45 PM

Originally posted by Electroman
Half hour ago... and her reaction was priceless... hands over her face, tears, the "Of course I will marry you!"... it was priceless.

Ahh and she wasn't expecting anything either...

We had just gotten out of eating at a nice restaurant, and I walked out onto the lawn. It was a real pretty night out, and she asked "What are you doing?"

I got down on one knee and it was all over...

That's wonderful news bro. I'm happy for you and so is Terry Bogard. Best of luck and God Bless.

MERCENARY X99

**PleaseKillMeNow** · 02-14-2004, 11:51 PM

Originally posted by Electroman
Half hour ago... and her reaction was priceless... hands over her face, tears, the "Of course I will marry you!"... it was priceless.

Ahh and she wasn't expecting anything either...

We had just gotten out of eating at a nice restaurant, and I walked out onto the lawn. It was a real pretty night out, and she asked "What are you doing?"

I got down on one knee and it was all over...

May you two have a wonderful life together...

*cough*post pictures of the nasty bachelor party*coug*

**Evil Wasabi** · 02-14-2004, 11:54 PM

Electroman rox0rs my box0rs congrats.

PS all the prenup talk surprises me, honestly. I'll probably just get married next year so I don't have an actualy career when I get married

Guys, don't any of you think you can have a decent divorce if it happens? I mean you have to get hella pissed at someone to try and go after everything you can from a person you once claimed to love. I don't know I guess I'm just trusting and not all that caring about my possessions. Its just stuff.

**Frame Gride 2** · 02-14-2004, 11:57 PM

Congrats Electroman.. make sure to post pics of the wedding

**BlackSpy** · 02-15-2004, 05:27 AM

Originally posted by Electroman
Half hour ago... and her reaction was priceless... hands over her face, tears, the "Of course I will marry you!"... it was priceless.

Ahh and she wasn't expecting anything either...

We had just gotten out of eating at a nice restaurant, and I walked out onto the lawn. It was a real pretty night out, and she asked "What are you doing?"

I got down on one knee and it was all over...

Nice work laddie.

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