Girlfriend advice - I need hellllppppp! - Updated, again!
As sad as this sounds, I am turning to the peeps @ n-g.com for advice.
Me: 29 yrs old - IT job for a major corporation
Her 25 yrs old - Works in banking plus goes to college part time
Situation: Started dating her about three and a half months ago and she moved into my apartment about a month ago (Mistake # 1).
Problem: She annoys the piss out of me. She complains about the way I eat, dress and the fact that I try to eat healthy. If I say I don't want to go and eat ice cream with her (for example), she gets upset and then tries to hit me with some sort of guilt trip. Then later she says she was just being sarcastic. Right. Also she gets upset when ever I talk to my friends and god help me if I want to go visit one of them for an hour or two. She is too damn clingy. If I leave the room for a minute or two, I get "Todd, what you doing/where did you go?" type treatment. Also, I am trying to start working back out again, if I mention doing it in the evening after work she gets all pissy and wants to know why I can't do it in the morning. She wants me to herself in the evenings. Ughh.
Ohhh, and when it comes to activities in the bed, she leaves a lot to be desired. Lets just say that I feel that I am doing a lot more than she is in that department. But I could deal with this and just accept it, I guess.
Whenever she moved into my apartment, she made it clear that if our relationship didn't work out that should would be able to just be friends with me and we could continue to be roommates at that point. Somehow I don't think thats how things are going to work at. If I went home tonite and told her that I didn't want to date her anymore and just be "roommates", it would devastate her. Plus even if somehow this all happened, how could I possibly bring other girls home if I decided to start dating again? That would be uncomfortable to say the least.
My problem is this: If I wanted a clingy, insecure woman then I would just be dating some 20 year old college chick. 'Cause as much as I like the girl I am dating, I just can't see myself being able to live with her for the rest of my life. Her mother and both sisters have some issues (her mom is borderline psycho) and I can just imagine her being the same way in a couple years. Plus I think she has already been dropping hints that she wants me to propose to her. Fucking A, its only been 3.5 months!! She started talking about her ring size a couple days ago and about a "I love you" ring. Hmmm...
Perhaps I should just become a Playa 4 Life™? Bang out all the local college girls and not look back.
OY! my head hurts...