how hard is it to change two people on a house to one?

Well, I did it. I broke up with my live in girl friend. DAMN is she upset. I tried so hard to make it known that I was sorry about what I was doing, but it had to end.

Anyhow, I lied. I said in a post before that I was the only one on the house. We both are. I'm staying, and she's leaving. She can't even sort of afford the house by herself.

So, how hard is it to change both our names on it to just mine? Will I have to go to court or something? I don't even know where to begin. Is this going to cost me a lot of money? (in her rage, she told me that it would cost a ton to put it in my name... whatever that means).

Little help? Thanks.
Spike

I'm no expert, but it sounds like something that has the potential to degenerate into a sticky legal mess. What do you mean when you say that the house is in both of your names? Are you both listed as owners or something? At any rate, I'd get some sound advice before making any sudden moves. Maybe she'll be really cool about it, but I wouldn't make any assumptions.

I think if it's half in her name, and she doesn't want to give her half up, it will be hard. I don't know if you'll have to sue her for not paying her half or something, but I imagine she can make it difficult if she wants to. Not as difficult as if you were married, though. Count your lucky freaking stars for that. I have a friend who's still paying off a girl he divorced 10 years ago. He's now on step 3 (out of 4) of compounding the mistake. However difficult she makes it, if you were not 100% sure of her, you did absolutely the right thing by getting out now.

2 names on the house is a big mistake from the get-go...

I know from personal experience.... Be prepared to pay her for her half...

always get all your shit in YOUR name only, that is if you ever wanna keep it no questions asked. and sign a fucking pre-nup if you get married.

And yes, it will cost a whole bunch of money in lawyer's fees....

that is, if it can be resolved outside a courtroom ( if both parties are in agreement )...

If not, then it will cost even more...

I think it is probably easier to sell the house then to go through all the legal stuff to get it just to your name. It is a tough situation, I wish you find a GOOD lawyer regardless, and best of luck.

So you bought a house together ?

Then there's some kind of contract which states which part is hers, right ?

Or are we missing something here ?

Good luck btw.

She doesn't want the place.... I would be putting it in my name only. Damn, this sucks.

Spike

Spike,

This is going to be one of the tougher things you've ever dealt with, but you have to stay strong and stick to your decision. You need to get her out of your place if at all possible...it's just going to be far too easy to slip back into your rut and start 'relations' again if she's around. I mean, even if it comes to fronting her the cash to get her own place, you should. I guess I had it a bit easier when I left my ex, since she had nowhere else to go and my family's in town, I was the one who chose to get on out. Having the house in both of your names seems like it would be an easy thing to change, sounds more like some kind of ploy on her part to get you to see the 'error of your ways' or make it seem more difficult.

Good luck dude. These things are simply a bitch. Just remember that one day when you've pulled away from this whole mess, you'll have your freedom and suddenly you'll understand how much better off you are.

Hmmm,I rememer that last thread...probably would have been best to break the news to her after knowing/exploring all of your options. Let this be a lesson to people in similar situations...always map out a plan despite your emotions.
Well ,you could always buy her out ,meaning you find out the equity on the home and pay her half of the total amount or as was previously suggested,post the home up for sale and you both go your seperate ways..It reads like she's not going to be very cooperative so you may want to seek some legal advice,like yesterday.
Thanks for sharing.
-BB

I guess I have missed something. Are you renting or buying the house? If you are renting, then it will be very simple. If you are buying it will be more difficult, but if she is in agreement about who gets the place it will go smoothly. Just seek out proper council, and I don't think any of us are qualified.

Well, I found out that I will have to pay 550 for something, and another 500 for closing costs. A bitch, yes, but not as bad as I thought. There's a 6-8 week processing time.

She didn't pay crap on the mortgage, so it's no big deal. She's got half her stuff out already, which isn't much (bed from the guest bedroom, dishes, some clothing)....

Oh well. Life's a bitch, but you gotta do what you gotta do. And, I agree Loopz, I had to get her out. I could slip into doing something that I wouldn't want to do, and be back to square one again. It's tough, but I'm living...

Spike

Spike Spiegel said:

Well, I found out that I will have to pay 550 for something, and another 500 for closing costs. A bitch, yes, but not as bad as I thought. There's a 6-8 week processing time.

She didn't pay crap on the mortgage, so it's no big deal. She's got half her stuff out already, which isn't much (bed from the guest bedroom, dishes, some clothing)....

Oh well. Life's a bitch, but you gotta do what you gotta do. And, I agree Loopz, I had to get her out. I could slip into doing something that I wouldn't want to do, and be back to square one again. It's tough, but I'm living...

Spike

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Keep up the good fight brother. I feel for you.