Getting dumped 5 days before V-day

EvilMike

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Well I know I'm sick of the woman threads but I just wanted to see what people think about this. My GF recently had been losing interested in me. I think it is because I've been in this funky depression for the last month and I really drove her up a wall. So today she dumped me and I can say I knew it was comming. I'm really really bummed over the entire thing especially since it happened 5 days before V-day and 12 before my birthday. What really sucks is in the last few days I've come out of whatever was affecting me. Anyway I had all these great V-day plans and I wish I could have gone through with them. I really think it would have changed things especially since I my shitheadedness is gone. It is all probably wishfull thinking. Is it better though that I'm going to have a shitty shitty V-day and B-day and not been led on or would it have been better for her to see how the holiday went before making her decision.
 
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what's done is done.
stop thinking about it and move on.
 
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In my opinion she is a better girl than most, she did not drag a V-day present out of you only to dump you closer to you birthday.
 
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Damn, that sucks.... well hang in there man.
 
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At least you know why she dumped you, that's always a good thing. Still a horrible thing though... hope you find someone again soon :(
 
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Everything has a reason for happening and in time you shall find out what that reason may be.

Good luck and righty-o, live and learn. But don't dwell. Never dwell. Look to a brighter day
 
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I'm sorry to hear that.

I'm not sure if this is sound advice, but my instant gut reaction was to find yourself a rebound chick -just don't tell her that she is, or imply it by mentioning (a) your recent ex-g/f or (b) any ex-g/f for that matter: it never goes well.
 
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Bobak said:
I'm sorry to hear that.

I'm not sure if this is sound advice, but my instant gut reaction was to find yourself a rebound chick -just don't tell her that she is, or imply it by mentioning (a) your recent ex-g/f or (b) any ex-g/f for that matter: it never goes well.
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How do you get rebounding to work that way...always thought it was catch the girl after she got out of a relationship.
 
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Bobak said:
I'm sorry to hear that.

I'm not sure if this is sound advice, but my instant gut reaction was to find yourself a rebound chick -just don't tell her that she is, or imply it by mentioning (a) your recent ex-g/f or (b) any ex-g/f for that matter: it never goes well.
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its amazing how some girls get dumped then a few days later they open up so much, as if crying for a boyfriend, or at the very least, increased attachment of a "male friend."

Funny creatures, they are
 
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Well its better to get dumped before a holiday like this than right afterwards because then you'd feel used for a gift. Although its never cool to get dumped so close to a holiday like this. Not like my friend who dumped his girlfriend of 8 months a day before christmas over MSN. Now thats cruel.
 
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Fucking sucks, but it was probably for the best. If she couldn't help you through your funk, they what kind of friend is she anyways. A good friend would have stuck by your side and help you out. Clearly she just wanted to bail and couldn't trouble herself to help you.
 
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its amazing how some girls get dumped then a few days later they open up so much, as if crying for a boyfriend, or at the very least, increased attachment of a "male friend."
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EGGZACTLY!!!
 
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isn't it amazing everytime you make big plans for a holiday, you end up getting dumped before that holiday, lol, but then if you don't plan ANYTHING and you're still together you end up looking like a loser, you can't win either way.
 
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I'm with ya man. I'm having a party at my house in NoVA this weekend, come down to my place and get toasted with the best of em.

While I know that this probably isn't very good advice, there is nothing better for a depression than a depressant. Buy a case of Heineken and your woes will go away for a while. Nectar of the gods it is....
 
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Thanks for the invite to the party. I work in a restaurant and I'm just gonna go in to work and make a shitload of money while I look at all the happy couples.

Thanks for the kind words everybody........Funny though people mention the gifts. I'm still giving her what I bought her and she is still giving me my birthday/V-day gift.
 
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The title made me think this was about emulation.
 
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If you knew it is coming b/c of something you did, well, you can't really blame her (regardless of whether you came out of whatever funk you were in).

It is your responsibility to tell her that you have had problems and that they are behind you so you 2 can be happy. But it didn't sound like you did that.

Anyway, I am not chastising you. I hope you learn your lessons, that you need to open up and talk about your problems with those you love so they don't feel so hopeless that they just walk away.
 
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Lastblade said:
If you knew it is coming b/c of something you did, well, you can't really blame her (regardless of whether you came out of whatever funk you were in).

It is your responsibility to tell her that you have had problems and that they are behind you so you 2 can be happy. But it didn't sound like you did that.

Anyway, I am not chastising you. I hope you learn your lessons, that you need to open up and talk about your problems with those you love so they don't feel so hopeless that they just walk away.
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Well I knew it was comming cause of how she was acting. I definetly talked about what was bothering me. I just wasn't fun to be around for a good while. I don't blame her for breaking up with me at all though.
 
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