Views on dating younger people

Yo, I know some of you are like "oh god, another relationship thread," but I'm just searching for a general concensus and a little advice maybe.

I am a junior in college and I've been a TA/Tutor since last semester, hence I meet ALOT of freshmen and consider myself to be quite popular among the freshmen class. I've gotten buddy buddy with a few of my students, but I always try to maintain to the professional student/teacher relationship.

Well, this one girl, who I met via tutoring last semester is a really nice girl. Cute, funny, maybe a little too bubbly at times, but got to know her a bit other than academically and she is a great person. I mulled over in my mind about what I should do, but I let it be. Fast forward to the past week. So I ran into her and we do the small talk thing, and she's brings up that we should go out sometime, do something other than tutoring. Well, I took her up on it, we hung out tonight, nothing happened, but I get the feeling its heading that way.

Only problem is a do feel kind of awkward cause she is two years younger than me and secondly I was her teacher first. I've taken pretty good ribbing from my friends, all in fun of course, but man I felt like an old fart or a perv after walking her back to her dorm and meeting her friends over there, especially the guys. The guys gave me "the eye," but I wasn't intimadated (I'm a big dude at 6'10", I've fucked some people in my day, but that's another story). Those guys just seem to give me the message like "hey what are you doing moving in on our turf."

I guess I'm just mixed up. It also doesn't help she's my younger brother's age, just kind of makes it a little awkard. Maybe it has to do with something about me being the oldest sibling and I feel people younger than me are too inexperienced and I must take the mentor position. Also maybe one of my better female friends dated our TA in one of our courses and it turned out horribly wrong. Eh, who knows.

Thanks for reading if you read this. I really don't give a shit if you bash it, some of you guys are actually pretty fucking hilarious.

i usually stay away from younger girls. a lot of them usually don't know who they are and what they want so all you really get is a lot of shit and drama. hell, even a lot of girls my age don't know who they are and what they want. however, if she seems like a level-headed girl, then it's all gravy.

lol Two years isnt much of a gap, if you can even call it that. There shouldnt be a problem if you two have some things in common and gel and what not.

When I was 27, I once dated a chick who was 19 unintentionally. She told me that she was 23, but I knew something was up when she would constant botch dates when she would talk about her past. You know how it is....women are always trying to pull in the older guy. It ended because she was, frankly, just a kid, doing stupid kid things I did years ago.

They age age aint nuthin but a number.....bullshit lie! I'm going to be 30 in May...whats the chances of me having something in common with someone, say 20, besides bumpin uglies? Different musical tastes, cultural experiences, etc.

hey if john romero does it then it's OK BY ME

Well seeing as how only a hundred years ago women in their teens were married off to men in their forties, and society accepted that (strange how now that's an issue?) I'd say, if the two of you really do feel something in common, then just go for it. I personally never could (still can't most of the time) get along or more to the point, find a common bond with people either younger than me or of a contemporary age beyond the "small fry bullshit." Thus my friends are generally people 10 years my senior, and the women I dated (prior to my wife who's the same age as me strangely enough, though I'm older than her by a month to the day) were always "Mature Women". What do you really have to lose though? I mean sure, you're going to get ribbed on by people, but screw them... what matters is what the two of you ultimately feel about one another (assuming there's really something there) and the age difference isn't anything as drastic as past traditions. You have everything to learn and possibly gain from this experience and almost nothing to lose, other than some water under the bridge and possibly a broken heart. Do what you feel you must, if you spend too much time pondering over the issue whatever is there will be gone, and you'll spend the rest of your life wondering "What if...?"

Go for it. "Heart & Fire, Heart & Fire!"

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2 years???? is there any difference?

when i was 19 my first woman was like 27...

a couple of years ago i dated a 19 year old at the age of 27. great sex

thats about as serious as ill get on this topic

2 years is nothing.

My oldest brother is 30. He's dating an 18 year old... STILL IN HIGH SCHOOL. That''s wrong. He complains because she's so so clingy and has to know where he is all the time, blah, blah, blah. All girls that age are that way, so I don't know why he even started dating her.

A friend of my other brother is 27 and dating a 17 year old. She is the same way.

I would never date a girl still in high school, and just out of high school is still too early. They are annoying, they are clingy, they are possessive. Not my idea of a good time.

As far as you are concerned, in the grand scheme of things, what is 2 years? My parents are 2 years apart! GO for it.

Two years is nothing once you get to age 20 or so.

My brother's common law wife is 22.... he's 31.

My wife is six years younger (I'm 33, She's 27).

The only thing to consider is how you feel about it. Since you haven't been her teacher for a while, I don't see a problem.

My wife is 4 years older than I am. I don't think 2 years is anything to worry about.

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Spike23 said:

it's better regret something you did, rather than regret something you didn't.

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unless its involves having kids.


I am in the exact opposite position as this thread. I am dating an older woman than me. I am 28 and she is 35. She is an incredible woman that I adore. Shes intelligent, sexy, has a hell of a sense of humor and a great relaxed personality. Ohhhh, did I mention she loves oral sex and swallows? Ohhhh yeah.

As a matter of fact, I am going over to her place and fuck her all nite long. All fucking nite.

When I was 29 I once dated a 23 year old.

She wasn't for me - she didn't have the experience I needed for us to relate to one another. However, that doesn't mean all younger women are like that.

It was the best sex of my life though!

Spike23 said:

1) hit that shit--she obviously wants it.

2) you were her TEACHER......so TEACH her every position you know.

3) young, old, does it REALLY make a difference?

4) if you don't, can i have her number?

5) forget this running joke i'm posting and actually call her up, take her out, and have some fun. she seems great and if you don't, someone else will, then you'll regret it. it's better regret something you did, rather than regret something you didn't.

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Nice post

Reason #5, better regret I did, then I did not. I'll just force myself to get over the student/teacher thing. Thats the only thing thats really holding me back.

Damn dude 6'10"? Awesome.

Anyway I dated one girl 2 years younger than me and I especially know what you mean about it being weird that she's your younger brothers age, which was the case with me. But in the end, any girl that will be for you, age will not be part of the equation.

I wouldn't know anything about the subject.

My GF is 2 years younger then me...no biggie...GO FOR IT!!! you're only young once....

well being in highschool i have to say this: girls that are younger than you here don't know what they want, what to feel like (emotionally), and generally do string you along through shit, drama, and hours of garbage. and from my experience an older girl usually knows what's going on, what's what, and where to go to have fun. though there are always exceptions to the rules i find that older chicks tend to be more down to earth than younger girls. but then again you have to look at the kind of girls i like, and you'd see real fast that i'm awfully picky. i like a girl who is more of a guy than a chick, someone not afraid to fart, burp, wrestle, drink, kick ass, and then still have that seldom seen feminine side. so for me finding the "ideal woman" is more of a quest than for most guys, age matters not if she fits the criteria, and in my life i've only met 3 chicks who really fit the ass backwards standards i have. i'd say go for the younger girl if she meets the standards you have.

Rules on dating younger people:

If they are over 18, then they are legal and FFA.

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Spike23 said:

it's better regret something you did, rather than regret something you didn't.

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For some reason I can't remember who, but there was a band that said that ("Remember, son, it's always better...etc.) in the intro to a song followed by..."and if you see your mother, be sure to tell her SATAN...SATAN...SATAN..." Always cracked my up. Wish I could remember who that was.

Im 39 and the girlfriend just turned 22.
Why do people get so ageist ?

Just imagine, when you were still a toddler learning to potty train and crawl around, she was still an embryo. That should take the sexual attraction right out of your dilemma.

I once dated a younger girl. Our goals ended that relationship. I wanted to go to New York and be a screenwriter, she wanted to be a princess. I know 'heartache' may seem like a cliched term... but when we broke up that morning in front of her kindergarden class, my chest felt like it was caving in.


She said I had cooties.


btw, that song is 'Locust Abortion Technician' by the Butthole Surfers IIRC.

Tom Wopat said:

btw, that song is 'Locust Abortion Technician' by the Butthole Surfers IIRC.

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Thanks, that's been bugging me.

Nail her!

Front, back, mouth, ears- do everything you can think of to her.

If you don't, you'll regret it.