So my Grandpa has cancer... Should we keep it from him?...
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I would suggest letting him know. In any case, it's better that he know as soon as he can so that he can (worst-case) get his affairs in order, and if it's still in the early stages, it's doubly important that he know so that he can get it treated.
I don't so much mean, "Guess what, Grampa? You've got six months to live!" as I do "Grampa, we found out that you have cancer. We think you should see a doctor and get your will in order if you haven't done so already, just in case."
I don't so much mean, "Guess what, Grampa? You've got six months to live!" as I do "Grampa, we found out that you have cancer. We think you should see a doctor and get your will in order if you haven't done so already, just in case."
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You are a Yoko Kanno fan. I like that. So here's my advice.
Let him know. He is (probably) too old to be messed around with. And your mother cannot simply "decide" what's best for him. That's not the way things are done.
But that's how I feel. I'm sorry that you guys are going through this moment.
Let him know. He is (probably) too old to be messed around with. And your mother cannot simply "decide" what's best for him. That's not the way things are done.
But that's how I feel. I'm sorry that you guys are going through this moment.
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Well here's the thing... My grandpa was already hospitalized and stuff (lungs and intestine problems...) just recently... He's now stuck in a wheelchair and is now very thin and weak... My mom has good intentions, don't get her wrong... She feels it might give him more shock...
(off note: Yes, I'm a Yoko Kanno fan... I just read somewhere that Wolf's Rain OST2 just came out.... But it'll just have to wait for later...)
(off note: Yes, I'm a Yoko Kanno fan... I just read somewhere that Wolf's Rain OST2 just came out.... But it'll just have to wait for later...)
Well, I guess that'll just the way it will be... Thanx anyywayz....
My mum's bf died of cancer almost a year ago, so i know how you must be feeling. and i do NOT think that your mum is right, she should have enough decensy and respect for him to not keep it from him. it is HIS life, and he deserves to know. trust me, if he goes the wrong road, he will want to know whats making him so ill, before he gets too confused to realize whats happening..
please tell your grandpa, it serves no good in not doing it.
good luck to you and your family!
please tell your grandpa, it serves no good in not doing it.
good luck to you and your family!
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Your grandfather isn't a child, I'm sure he's seen and experienced enough tough times in his life to handle this news.
Tell him.
Tell him.
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How old is he?
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I assume its terminal since your considering not telling him. Absolutely he should know. He has a right to, and the sooner the better. Imagine if you dont tell him and then near the end he finds out that you kept this from him. I dont know about your grampa, but if it was me I would be furious. I understand the motive to keep it from him is good, but it could make things worse.
Edit: Ok I read more of the replys. Well if he has already lost his mental capacity to large extent, then that changes things a bit. I think if he has a clear enough mind to understand whats going on he should be told. This is just my opinion though. Obviously you know alot more about the situation than I do.
You have my sympathy.
Edit: Ok I read more of the replys. Well if he has already lost his mental capacity to large extent, then that changes things a bit. I think if he has a clear enough mind to understand whats going on he should be told. This is just my opinion though. Obviously you know alot more about the situation than I do.
You have my sympathy.
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I hope things turn out ok seba_boi.
Best wishes.
Best wishes.
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I'm really sorry to hear that.
My advice? Don't tell him, you will only trouble his poor mind more. As if it isn't enough what he's going through already this might definitely present some unwanted results. Right or no right, something things should not be known in certain situations.
Don't do it, let him have atleast some peace.
Best of luck man.
My advice? Don't tell him, you will only trouble his poor mind more. As if it isn't enough what he's going through already this might definitely present some unwanted results. Right or no right, something things should not be known in certain situations.
Don't do it, let him have atleast some peace.
Best of luck man.
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It is his cancer, so let him know what he has.
I have a related experience that i would like to share.
My grandfather kept his own cancer a secret for three years. The last week of his life i asked him why he had not told us, he just said "There was nothing you could have done for me anyway, and i didnt want to worry you". He was trying to be considerate and shield us but i fealt cheated in the way that had i known i would have tried to make even more of our last time together. He was a great man and i miss him.
I dont know you seba_boi, but you have my sympathy.
My grandfather kept his own cancer a secret for three years. The last week of his life i asked him why he had not told us, he just said "There was nothing you could have done for me anyway, and i didnt want to worry you". He was trying to be considerate and shield us but i fealt cheated in the way that had i known i would have tried to make even more of our last time together. He was a great man and i miss him.
I dont know you seba_boi, but you have my sympathy.